One cannot get through life without a close friend. The term 'best' friend, to me, is the one that has both been there in longevity and significance. I often wonder what Zachary's friends will be like and if he'll be fortunate to get a friend that will face battles with him, share advice, make sure he has fun but protects him as well. That person, male or female, that he can turn to when he can't (or won't) turn to me.
I've been very lucky in the friends that I have and have had throughout my life. Grey's Anatomy coined a term, your best friend is your 'person'. My person I've known for 21 years now (which hardly seems possible... that would make me old). We got into many adventures in high school and I credit him with bringing me out of my shy shell and confront the adventures of life head-on. We went to the same university together, although this is where we started to define our own lives a bit more separately. It also took some adjusting on my part, not being as outgoing, to try and fit in on my own. Friendships evolve, grow with situations, ebb and flow like the tides... the strong one's endure. I've had friends that, when something traumatic happened or life changing, disapeared. I don't see them anymore. But your person is always there.
Perhaps not on daily basis like you were with friends in high school... but with your person, you know that even if days, weeks, months go by... they're always there. The sign of a solid friendship is that they occupy that part of you that you can access anytime you need to, even if you don't actually talk to them.
My parents never 'screened' my friends nor told me who I should hang out with. How did they embed in me the ability to find good friends? Just lucky I guess.
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